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TikToker uses platform to highlight effects of husbands porn addiction

Online Safety
31 August 2023
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TikToker, Jourdan Kehr (@thatsnotlove) has chosen to be open about how her husband's pornography addiction has affected her marriage, and her own self-worth.

She has taken to the social media platform to share with others in an attempt to warn others.

Kerh speaks into the myth of pornography ‘spicing up’ a relationship saying it instead “completely changes your arousal template, it rewires your brain and reconditions your body.”

“The mentality that I can't get behind, that I don't understand. When you're dating a man, you're committing to a man, you're giving your body to a man, sleeping with him...

She continues, “This idea that a man is asking you to sleep with him, asking you to marry him, asking you to be his girlfriend, don't be with anyone else, don't date anyone else…

“But it is somehow uncalled for, for that woman to say, ‘I need some kind of proof that you’re not watching porn behind my back…that you're not lusting after other women.' That's seen as crazy, like give him some privacy.”

Kehr has used her platform to talk about her trauma discovering her husband’s secret addiction.

She shares, “when the person that you loved in the one that hurts you and you didn’t see it coming, your entire worldview collapses.”

It changed the way she viewed herself, admitting that she became to “despise” her post-partum body. She said, “each glimpse was a reminder of the woman who wasn’t enough”.

Kehr is using her platform to raise awareness, posting content about her husband’s recovery, and sharing practical ways in which they have worked together to overcome this issue in their relationship.

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